Get Authentic with Marques Ogden
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Get Authentic with Marques Ogden- Misty Buck


Athlete Mental Health and Mindset Coach Misty Buck joins Marques to chat about the transition into life after sports. She shares the top problems athletes face after sports retirement, and what they can do about it. Misty also drops some extremely helpful tips for how athletes and professionals can effectively create authenticity, purpose, and identity in their lives.

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...that inner game is what allows everything on the outside to happen. So if you're going to operate on the outside as your most authentic, truest self and bring that to people into the world and whatever that capacity might be, I think first you have to start on the inside and taking the time regularly to know yourself and to love yourself. H Missing, let's get real for a moment. I wrote down something I want to get a little more clarification on, and not clarification, just want you to expound upon more. Talk about get to know yourself on the inside. Came who you are on the inside? Why do you feel missing. So many people struggle with getting to know who they are on the inside. I think I don't know that there's one simple answer for that, but I will say that from experience personally and an experience of people that I've worked with and chatted with at think there's a lot of noise, right, and so you kind of have to decide um who it is that you that you want to be, right, And I think the noise can come from things that are happening now and um expectations that people have for you. But I think noise can also come from your past experiences. Right. So Let's say that you experience something as a kid growing up or even as an adult, and it impacted you that could potentially rock how you are able to be comfortable with that part of yourself on the inside, right, So maybe now you're wrestling with that or whatever that might be. And I think that the reality, Marcus, is that this is a lifelong journey, you know, and we're going to use sports terms. I think the game time adjustments happened your entire life every single day on the inside and on the outside. So I think being able to to be comfortable in sitting with yourself and looking at your flaws, looking at your quote unquote weaknesses, and deciding that I'm going to love myself even for my imperfections, and I'm going to make adjustments to Maybe there's things that you want to work on or you need to change a negative thought habit. Those are things that happen your entire life. They don't stop. So I think that makes it difficult because we want to believe we've been through enough, and we've achieved enough, and we've overcome enough, and we should be good to go now. Right, at least that happened to me. That's not reality. Well, you know, I've got some nose homing to ask you something a little bit later on. But let's get to you and your work, right. You talk about helping people be okay who they are on the outside and the inside, and you said that that thought was really interesting that a lot of times it's not just the external factors that hold us back. The internal factor can hold us back as well. So talk about you and the work you do to help athletes, non athletes, anybody that's struggling to get through their hard times. Tell about what you're doing with your with your company today, yeah, So we do a lot of different Well, I work with athletes and in a couple of different capacities which share in a second, but I think that in terms of helping people, I think, you know, part of part of the issue for every single human being is the fact that we are human beings and we are robots. We're not robots, and we are things to get complicated. And it's hard to look at your journey objectively when you're living it all day long. Right, you're with yourself seven. Right, You're not with anybody else seven, but you're with yourself seven. So how do we help you become whether you have a problem or not. How do we help you be the best complete version of yourself? How do we work together so that you are able to continue to move forward and do it in a way that feels comfortable, that feels authentic, but feels purposeful, that fuels the...

...things that we want to feel in life. Um So, and how do we make those adjustments to do that? Right? And that's completely individual to each person. So on that note, the way that we work with people is will work one on one. So you can do what I call V I P sessions and you would work with me one on one, do some coaching in that regard. Another program that we actually are launching right now, probably by the time the episode comes out, will be rolling with it. But it's a transition program to help athletes who are transitioning out of the out of the sport UM. The difference with this program is that it is going to be completely personalized and a one stop shop, still offering one on one support because I think that that people need that one on one support, Like for me personally, I don't know about you, Marcus, but I don't like to uh people do. I'm not knocking. It's just not my style. Like I need to in order to really work on things. I mean that that interaction. I can't take a class online. I can't do an on demand course like I need to. UM. I don't want to necessarily always be in a big group of people. I want to just work one on one. And so that's what UM this program, among all the other programs that we do, is really going to focus on. So whether you come and you're transitioning and you're struggling with the myriad of things, we can dig into that if you want. That happened after Sports we're gonna get you a coach that works with you in one of those areas. You're gonna have a one on one accountability partner, a one on one mental health and wellness, one on one finance, financial literacy, one on one career, etcetera, etcetera, etcetera. Yeah, let's get real for a moment. Love how you said the one on one, the personal touch. I do one on one coaching. I've done group coaching, I've done consulting. As a matter of fact, I'm not gonna put the name out there, but we are in talk with a professional Major League Baseball team. Our brand is about doing some work with them. Potentially had a great call of them, uh this morning. Really excited about it and so that could be huge for us when it comes to consulting. So we do the consulting, the coaching though, speaking all that stuff, but nothing in my mind beats the one on one perspective of coaching, especially talk about athletes, right, And I took a note, and let's go into a dial of the deeper. You said, you know what happens when athletes leave the sport, they transition. Talk about that, Talk about why you started this and show with our audience that may not really know as much as you do about when athletes struggle with and all that kind of stuff. Talk more about what that's like, you know, and what you've seen in your work. Yeah, I'd be happy to dive into that, So thank you. I think you know what I've been what I've seen over the years is I start. I've been observing this over and over and over again, and I think this can be true of anybody in transition. But I think that the number one thing that I think people may or may not understand when an athlete is making a transition. One of the difficulties is that will and market some sure you can speak to this as well. When you left the game, it's like you walked out of that locker room for the last time. That was it, Right, You're on your own. You don't have a team already set up to help you with your transition. There's no handbook. Here you go, this is what you do next. There's no more locker room commodity, none of that is there. It's it's up to you. You're on your own. That job has ended and now you're you've moved on. So something that you've essentially dedicated. The better part of your life too is no longer there. So athletes and and I think the other important piece to understand is that we don't I don't like to generalize. So when you work with me or you work with one of our programs, what we're gonna do is meet you where you're at, right, because some of what I say may be clear to you and speak to you, and some may not it. And that's why we're going to... you where you're at. But not to generalize again, but we see a lot of athletes they deal with number one morning, the loss of their sport. People don't think about this. It is a morning period of It's not just like fun and games that Okay, this is over. I mean, this is a big part of who you are. This is identity plays a huge part here. Right. If I'm not this anymore, who am I? What's my value now? Right? These are some of the things that people get into. Um, what do I do with my schedule? Now? My schedule has been set for me for all this time, So now I need to bring in some sort of schedule. I need some kind of routine. I need to know my new goals where am I going now? What's my purpose now? What is my calling now? What are my next steps? How am I going to provide for my family now? How am I going to adjust to now being back home when I've been away so much and now I have to come back into my family unit. Let's say the player happens to be married and has kids. Now I have to redefine what I mean to this family unit because now I'm home all the time again, Right, I'm not on the road as much, I'm not here as much and whatever it is? So um finances of course, right, understanding those things health and wellness? How do I adjust now to my fitness and nutrition? Now that again, like that piece is gone? So I think that there are and and really markets those are just a few know this, those are just a few issues that come up. But put them all together, and I think that that that that is certainly a recipe for a person to feel lost and confused and um. And we see a lot of we see a lot of former players feeling isolated. They feel isolated because no one understands what they're going through at this stage in their life. No one else knows what it was to be an athlete um, they don't know who to go to. Right. We talked about that commodity a second ago. So that's what things like this program are looking to resolve, is bring all of that to a place where essentially a one stop shop. You know, let's talk about that for a second. You talk about a one stop shop, right, what is the unique selling proposition or the unique value proposition for why athletes should come to you. I feel it is because you are a one stop shop. And I feel that's important because a lot of times, especially when an athlete has lost their identity, they are not in the sport anymore. They feel isolated, like you mentioned, shut out, maybe rejected. A lot of times when players leave the game. I can only speak for football, right, So very few people retire like my brother Barry Sanders, Jim Brown. Very few people walk away from the game right and say I'm done. You know, Calvin Johnson, you know all these things. Most of the time you are cut or you are sick out. So there's the there's that rejection, the sense of loss, loss of identity, all these things. So when a player is going through that, I feel they're not gonna want to make a bunch of phone calls to this place, in that place, in this place, in that place, they're gonna want to be more sensualized and have a one stop shop. So to me, that's what I feel your unique value proposition is. But maybe you see something else. What is it, Misty, that is the unique value proposition of your organization? Yeah? So, and that program it's called the three sixty pro Athletes Transition Program three, meaning that we're looking to do holistic view of the things that you have going on in your life. And so I would actually agree Marcus. The reason I started this is because I was noticing that, yes, there are other programs probably out there. Don't know there's anything exactly like...

...this, but I I just think that it's such a a disservice two because people think and tell me if I'm wrong, But it seems to me that people think, and even the athlete might judge themselves and being like, oh, you know what, I was an NFL player, How could I possibly not figure this out on my own? How could I possibly have problems? How could I possibly not have the right resources right? And I think those are some of the stigmas that people face. Former if we're talking about former NFL players. That's what I think some former football players face those stigmas and so on the outside and again on the inside as we were talking about earlier, So I did. My goal with this was is to do something to keep it simple and exactly to your point. I don't want you to feel like as much as I have can provide the resources to feel like you have to. You don't know where to go and you don't know where to start, right. So the idea is you finish your career, you come to this program. If we work for you, great, But if you come to this program, we're going to try and get you all of the resources that we can to to get you on the right track so that you don't feel like you have to call this that any other person. Right. So, and we're working with UM potentially we're bringing in some accountability partners that have knowledge of even things like benefits and how do you apply for them, and how do you do it? By your deadline? What are you qualified for? You know what I mean? So, like we're looking to to just solve some of those answers in a space that's easy that you don't have to go and resource. Like you said, earlier, this one, that one. I have to go here because you know that's that's difficult for anybody. So if you can just go to one place and we can aim to bring you as many of those resources, if not refer you, I think that's that's our job. You know. Let me ask you this question, Sunesty. You know your background and health and wellness and mental clarity and trying to help people stay on track, and love the program on one of the people involved in it. Looking to help players again, I do business coaching, I've done you know, accountability, So I love how you say that word. And it's really interesting. What I feel a lot of people are not doing and your program does do is you excel at sense making, making things that are complex and difficult to understand very simple and simplistic to understand. And that's what these athletes are gonna be looking for people in general life field, especially athletes, because if you tell us do this, this and this, we're gonna go execute that, that and that. But if you try to make it where it's all, you know, too wordy or too much information and we can't process and we don't know what to focus on, then things get lost. So I also like how you're approaching it with different accountability partners, keeping it simple, cool and easy so players don't get frustrated and don't want to quit. But my question for you is, what do you think is the biggest problem with athletes transition? Is it depression? Is it anxiety? Is it fear of the unknown? Is it a sense of lass? Is it a rejection feeling? Like, what do you feel is the primary focal point from your studies and what you've seen in your professional work is the hardest thing for athletes to deal with and overcome, which is why again and your program is gonna be such a vital asset to them. Yeah, that's a great question. Markus and do and again thank you and shout out to you for being involved in You know, the minute I first told you about this, you were like, you've got to do this. I'm and so you've actually been a little bit of accountability partner for me and making sure that we bring this to fruition because, um, you know, we know people need mean this and I think so, I think again, I don't like... generalize, but I definitely think one of the top issues that athletes coming out of sports deal with is that piece of of identity, UM of grieving that for I think those are kind of your first steps, right of reading the loss and accepting and not being for instances, being stuck angry that you don't have your sport anymore, right, which can lead to depression, It can lead to anxiety and some of these other things, but also identity. So we see some issues. For example, I've read studies that say, UM, an athlete is more likely to struggle with their identity after sports, with this with the degree to which they identify themselves as an athlete in the first place. So like, if that's really all that you know, and and and we'll go another layer beyond that. So let's say that the sport is UM not just their identity, but that's their only outlet. Right. A lot of people, UM, regardless of the level that they play at, use their sport as their outlet for everything else going on in their life. And sometimes that works really well. But when you no longer have that outlet due to injury or whatever the situation might be, now, now what do you do? Right? So I think this is why I say that I think life is just game time adjustments constantly because you have to constantly catch yourself and see where you at. Is this working, is it's not working? Do I feel like myself? Do I not feel like myself? Does something feel off? And and just meeting that head on right. So I think I would say, you know, identity, grieving, the sports, some of are definitely a couple of the top issues. We're not the only ones with those are a couple of the top ones that we see because those, like I said, depression, anxiety right right right, something a note, my phone and I wanted to get your I got exactly right. One of the business value drivers that I tell athletes to live by is strategy and tactics. And the first bulletpoint under strategy and tactics is assess your skill sets and your resources. And I feel if more athletes did this when they left the game, they have a better chance of figuring out what to do after the game. Can you kind of explain how you help athletes assess their skill sets and resources through your program and then as they go into your program what they can expect and when you leave the program what they can expect. Right, Well, I think everything begins with personal accountability. So if you come to art program and you sign up and you think, Okay, I signed up, Now everything is going to be good. That's not how this works. You have to be able and willing to put in the effort. You have to be coachable, you have to take the action. You have to all of these different things that make you successful. Right So um, and that includes not just looking at things that you're talented at, but looking at things that maybe, um, you need to improve on in order to get to your next goal. Right. So we look at all these different pieces. And that's why you would have somebody, um if if business and career and you weren't sure what your next steps were, we would have something like you Marcus as one of our one on one coaches because you've been through it and you excel at that, and you would help the player. You would meet with them to decide things like, Okay, what are your tough skill sets? How do we use more of those? What are what do we want to do? Do you need to go back to school or you're gonna start a business? Like what going into the corporate world? Like what are we looking at here? Right? So? UM? I think that those...

...are among the strategy and tactics. But that's why we call it three sixty because we're looking at different pieces and you may it come to the program, by the way, and you may say, you know what, I have an awesome career approach. I don't mean that. Alright, cool, So let's figure out what areas you do need and let's get you the right kind of coaches. But that's why we bring in UM and an accountability partner, That's why we bring in a mental health and wellness coach. That's why we bring in some of these other areas of UM coaches, so that you can see which tactics you want to explore to work on, again reminding yourself that it's personal accountability. And by the way, something I don't know if I've mentioned yet, I think one of the really awesome parts about this program too, is that we're going to have weekly pre support groups, so and everything is virtual, so you're not just gonna be working with me or with you one I want. You're going to have that space to meet up virtually with others in the program, whether they are in the program now or their alumni members of the program in the future, and you all are going to be able to We're all gonna be able to support one another that way as well and share our experiences. So I think I know that wasn't an easy answer to tactics and solutions, but I think that it's It's that's why I'm still individualized. It's because we're really going to look at where you're out of, what you need to do, what do you want, and what do you need to do. Oh it may not have been the conventional answer, but it was sure the right answer, and that's exactly why we form this show and also full authentic moment. I met Misty a couple of years ago through social media. I started coaching her and then when she told me about what she's turning with athletes, and we decided to make a barn where now I still work with her, but she doesn't pay me, and she works with me as my coach. So Misty is my coach with health go on this perspective. She's helped me through some really hard, challenging times at this time of my life. And without her and her guidance and her forecasting and her helping me with look at things and say, Okay, Marcus, this is not your fault. Work on this, get better here you're doing this right, continue to move here. Without that guidance and without that support, I can say my life would be a lot more difficult at this time. So this is exactly why I'm in full support of three sixty and what she's doing, because she's helped me in my life and she's a coach of mine through mental clarity, health and wellness. Be stressing, because again, life can get stress no matter who you are. So again I can bounce for her work, and I can bounce that what she's done for me has helped me, so I know it will help other athletes, other people that enroll in this phenomenal program. So misses me. He ready to close out. How can people get in touch with you? And how can you find out more about your amazing program? Awesome good questions, So the and thank you for that, by the way, Marcus, And that's why I talk about um. You can only do so much objectively because there's been more than enough times that you have actually been that sounding board and that clear voice for me as well. So thank you, thank you for that. If y'all have a got with Marcus yet about his coaching and his programs, He's not just a podcast host. He's actually a phenomenal coach who brings it every time. So I want to give you a shot out there too. Thank you here well. So if you were interested in connecting with me or learning more about the program, you can head over to our website which is Purpose Soul s o u l Athletics dot com. Purpose Soul Athletics dot com. Or you can also find me on social media and just send me a message and I'll be happy to share some more information there as well. Audience, The authentic tip for this amazing special episode number sixteen. Always always, always bring community to... to get where you want to go. Isolation and depression are really a factor of us being alone right, not not being around others. You know, things start to eat away in us. We start to focus on what we don't do well, what we do wrong, all these things, and that's what feeds negative energy and toxicity, which makes it what hard to what break out and move forward. So again, surround yourself with the right people and bring community into your life, exactly what we're doing with our program. You heard Misty says, she's brilliant. I can't wait to see her program flourish and do well, because she's helped me, I know she can help me. So again, reach out to her, connect with her. You'll be glad you did. Again to a special episode number sixteen of the Get Authentic with Marcus Ship, I mean your host, Marcus often thanks for tuning in. Have a great thing.

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